Comments on: The Unburdened Mind

By: nugz42185

nugz42185 — Sat, 11 Feb 2012 01:49:52 +0000

[quote] said: “acceptance said: “Enter your comment hereI am what yuo would consider a non violent sosiopath but i dont see this as a bad thing but more as a way of thinking yes naturaly i manipulate people around me but is it always for bad no…now you would answer this as yes yit is your manipulateing the people who trust you to get what you want but take into consideration that maybe manipulations dont always have to end in a bad way for the quoted victim as im only in my last year of highschool i am constantly finding myself bored and need stimulation but even in things such as sports i can find little stimulation so i often tend to manipulate people into challenging me in such things as debates but is it bad to make people try and think on a deeper lvl to compete with my thought i wouldnt say so.
But as much as i have confidence and natural charm yatta yatta i cant help but find myself but envious of the normal person ii quite like the lack of empathy to be honest but lack of true feeling is something that you cannot think through or solve with your brain alone as this is why i find many people much like myself try to acheive these unatanable feeling a ultimate challenge for the emotionless to feel emotion hence the reason i am very manipulative in relationships but not to take my partners money or crush them emotionally and ii will find myself makeing my partner feel as though she is evrything something special wich of course for me is just simple words but for her are empowering and endeering but i will not deny i just leave when i still cannot achive emotion as a sosiopath i realize that this is a very strange goal to have
i just thought this would be an intrestig little snipit to read about for those who are interested in understanding or learning more about this subject this is only what was on my mind at the moment so if anyone has any further questions i would feel free to answer them you can email me and or post and i will try to get back to you…..if your wondering why i would be wanting to descuss this subject i find it very interesting to converse with people unlike me i very much enjoy figuring out how people think and thought this site would be a good way to converse without people worring about me harming them in any way as there is no way for me to”

Well let me start off with this. I am the MOM of a sociopath/psycopath. When I was first told his diagnosis a while back I was devistated. A feeling you will never know. I thought I will never be able to have a relationship with my son. He will never see his siblings again, pretty much every emotion a mother can think of. But see that’s the difference there. He has no concept of emotion, just like you. There is no magic pill or cure for anti social personality disorder! He did try to get institutionalized to see if he could get some help, none! You know what they said? The only kind of help for someone like him/you is to go to jail and be alone and bored and deal with the consequences of your actions. And he did go to jail, but for something stupid and to satisfy a warrant. He/we found a therapist that he couldn’t manipulate, well he probly can but it defeats the purpose. I don’t know if you are or can be violent but he can and has! In the process of this we have had some serious discussions about the way he thinks and how I think. You sound alot like him. Which is why I responded to this. Above I was told to stay completely away from him and have nothing to do with him. I tried, I’m his mother and it’s just not happening. The nice thing about being his mother is I am much harder to manipulate. I’m not saying it hasn’t happened, but I have an easier time seeing thru the lies and the bullshit. He has pretty much said that the lies are just so much more interesting than the truth. And I have seen him at work and how easily he can manipulate people. He’s good looking and very charming. I have no clue where he will be 5, 10, 15 years from now, but for the time being, I do know he’s safe because I see him almost every single day now. I don’t know if you have someone or something that is a comfort zone for you but I am his. I have seen weaknesses in his disorder and flaws but I also know that there are no emotions behind that smile. And yes I wondered if he ever loved me. Do you love your mother? Father? Someone? or do you have a “form” of love? I do understand this because my definition of happiness is not what others would say it is. Disfunction is actually the norm, just look around, watch the news, hell just walk down the street! I’m up for discussion only you can decide how honest you want to be. For me that’s not a problem, my one true atribute to myself, I don’t lie!”[/quote]

Hi I’m a sociopath, non violent infact I don’t enjoy violence, physicall pain is something I understand and don’t wish on people. I do love but in a very selfish way I’m compasionate but have no empathy, That my need some explaining when I see someone in a negative situation I’d like to see them get out of it and will even help but It doesn’t make me feel bad for them if they can’t the only person I feel bad for is me for not being able to help. I’m on a path to enlightenment based on a belief that the physicall world can be “manipulated” through a strong mind

By: nugz42185

nugz42185 — Sat, 11 Feb 2012 01:32:28 +0000

ok so apparantly I’m a sociopath, and the only reason I would care about your empathy, which I probably could get real easy, is so I could use it to my advantage so don’t feel bad for us feel bad for yourselves. sheep. you should know I’m non violent and adhere to a moral code but only because I believe in Karma and not because I feel bad about lieing or cheating or stealing. I know because of studies in quantum physics that you get back what you put out as a consequence I have a very happy disposition. I do feel compashion for people in pain or who are hungry just not empathy or sympathy for their emotion “I got through it, why can’t you” “your grandma was 84 and in pain you should be glad she died” If someone offered me a cure I would laugh at them and ask why? I DON’T LIKE TO HURT PEOPLE but if it happens whatever.

By: Tokano

Tokano — Sat, 23 Jul 2011 21:13:31 +0000

Is it bad that all of the quotes in this article made me laugh?

By: Pseudohero

Pseudohero — Tue, 05 Jul 2011 03:26:08 +0000

[quote]xyntheripper said: “Entirely not surprisingly this test claims I am in fact a psychopath. It said psychopath like halfway through.. I answered “yes” to 15/19 and “some what” to two. The only ones I don’t fit is habitual liar and the “first!” thing. I am glad I am a psychopath. Emotions and remorse are pointless. You are much better off going about life without such things as they are only going to hold you back. I recently had some events occur in my life most would deem quite upsetting. I went to jail for the weekend which really wasn’t so bad I caught up on my reading and watched some of the March Madness tournament and when I got out I found out my girlfriend had been raped. To be perfectly honest I didn’t give a shit. Then she told me about a month before the rape she had cheated on me. To this I felt relieved that she gave me the easy way out since I liked someone better anyway. Fast forward a few weeks my best friend died of an over dose. I guess most people are supposed to go through grief and feel bad right? I just felt happy for him. I mean he got out of this fucked up world and went out the best way possible. Just 19 years old. Lucky him. I got kicked out of his funeral a few days later. I was at a podium infront of 50 people sharing stories about him. I had a few people laughing until one of his best friends came up to me and cut me off and took me to another room. He said I made his mother cry (who abandoned him when he was a little kid) and that those stories I was telling are the reason that made my friend “hate me” and that I had no right to be there and if it wasn’t for me my friend would probably still be alive. I simply turned around and walked out and shrugged it off. The only time I ever really feel emotions is when I do heroin. I’m not sure why. I guess heroin is supposed to numb people emotionally so perhaps it has an opposite effect on psychopaths? Maybe psychopaths should be given a heroin prescription, there’s your cure! I have no desire to harm other people. I mean I really wouldn’t care if I did, but with all the forensics and shit they have now it’s just not worth going to prison for the rest of my life. There is just little to gain out of doing this. You know who is another psychopath? God. Noah’s Ark… Didn’t like the way the world was going so he mass murdered everybody? I doubt he even felt bad about it. And the story of Moses. He kept telling Moses to get out of there while “hardening Pharoh’s heart” making Pharoh unable to release Moses’ people then he murdered all of Pharoh’s army. God is definitely a psychopath.”[/quote]

You are quite interesting and like your attitude.

By: Serendipity

Serendipity — Sat, 30 Apr 2011 17:10:03 +0000

After reading this I felt great concern for the children born to the PEOPLE that are this way. (apples don’t fall far from the tree!) And the future significant others whose lives they will destroy. We need a new type of “self defence” taught to our children, one that prepares them for the prediator stalking the halls of our schools and employment areas of our work forces!

By: xyntheripper

xyntheripper — Mon, 25 Apr 2011 05:05:26 +0000

Entirely not surprisingly this test claims I am in fact a psychopath. It said psychopath like halfway through.. I answered “yes” to 15/19 and “some what” to two. The only ones I don’t fit is habitual liar and the “first!” thing. I am glad I am a psychopath. Emotions and remorse are pointless. You are much better off going about life without such things as they are only going to hold you back. I recently had some events occur in my life most would deem quite upsetting. I went to jail for the weekend which really wasn’t so bad I caught up on my reading and watched some of the March Madness tournament and when I got out I found out my girlfriend had been raped. To be perfectly honest I didn’t give a shit. Then she told me about a month before the rape she had cheated on me. To this I felt relieved that she gave me the easy way out since I liked someone better anyway. Fast forward a few weeks my best friend died of an over dose. I guess most people are supposed to go through grief and feel bad right? I just felt happy for him. I mean he got out of this fucked up world and went out the best way possible. Just 19 years old. Lucky him. I got kicked out of his funeral a few days later. I was at a podium infront of 50 people sharing stories about him. I had a few people laughing until one of his best friends came up to me and cut me off and took me to another room. He said I made his mother cry (who abandoned him when he was a little kid) and that those stories I was telling are the reason that made my friend “hate me” and that I had no right to be there and if it wasn’t for me my friend would probably still be alive. I simply turned around and walked out and shrugged it off. The only time I ever really feel emotions is when I do heroin. I’m not sure why. I guess heroin is supposed to numb people emotionally so perhaps it has an opposite effect on psychopaths? Maybe psychopaths should be given a heroin prescription, there’s your cure! I have no desire to harm other people. I mean I really wouldn’t care if I did, but with all the forensics and shit they have now it’s just not worth going to prison for the rest of my life. There is just little to gain out of doing this. You know who is another psychopath? God. Noah’s Ark… Didn’t like the way the world was going so he mass murdered everybody? I doubt he even felt bad about it. And the story of Moses. He kept telling Moses to get out of there while “hardening Pharoh’s heart” making Pharoh unable to release Moses’ people then he murdered all of Pharoh’s army. God is definitely a psychopath.

By: Aws

Aws — Sat, 18 Dec 2010 23:33:36 +0000

I found the article very enlightening indeed. Since my son was only a mere 2 years old, I knew something was wrong, mothers always do! Life has been extremely difficult with this child and for the past 22 years I have had so many close calls and emotional uphievals with him. Matters have spiralled so out of control that the family unit has been shattered to the extent where I actually fled the family home and when to live at a womens’ shelter because of his behaviour. Thank you for confirming what others could not. My son has the ability to wrap anyone around his little finger and therefore the doctors I took him to for help did not manage to give the correct diagnosis. Regardless of my protests, they would send me home with him telling me that he is just a normal naughty little boy. I have moved almost 17000 miles away and have left him to his own devices because I am unable to cope with it anymore. The emotional abuse and sometimes physical abuse, has been unbearable.
Thank you so much for this article – now I can have peace, knowing I was right all along. I love my beautiful boy, but cannot risk the rest of my family nor my own sanity any longer. He has no remorse and cares only for himself.
I have spent 22 years trying to help him and in the process lost myself, ruined my relationship with my husband and almost lost my other children.

By: TravelBugBrit

TravelBugBrit — Mon, 18 Oct 2010 00:37:39 +0000

I Realize that as i am the last comment to be posted i will obviously be overlooked, however, What an incredible article that was.

“This has caused some researchers to suspect that the condition isn’t a “disorder” at all, but an adaptive trait. In a civilization made up primarily of law-abiding citizenry, the theory goes, an evolutionary niche opens up for a minority who would exploit the trusting masses.”

This part Fascinates me. The concept of the human mind evolving and adapting constantly to Social situations, which in turn turns off “Normal” more suppressive emotions to deal with the in-balance, has my mind racing
Maybe more “Personality Disorders” could be better treated if we looked them all as the minds way of finding advantages in such tedious times.

Sleepy rant finished………….
:)

By: vortex2

vortex2 — Sat, 09 Oct 2010 14:55:15 +0000

I know 2 psycho/socio-paths, although at the time of “friendship” did not classify them as such. However, having come upon the topic and reading up on it, now know more defintively about it, and can now do so. Thank goodness, being the ‘weak willed person’ I certainly am in their eyes, they are out of my life for the most part. The internet knows no bounds though, and I must say the curiosity keeps me coming back for more, but from a safe distance combined with extreme care in what is written (how that can be used in the future) and without hinting to those people that I’m “on to them”, even though I know that could care less if I was…it’s immaterial.
I’ll describe one of them. Met this guy in high school. He was very smart, but did not get good grade due to is apparent lack of focus. He always had bigger eggs to fry. Anyone who got to know him knew he was a little ‘off’, charming and good looking as he might be. He planned a surprise birthday party for me, took me to the arcade to play pin-ball while the surprise party was gathering. A bit later, I discovered the roll of quarters he had with him to use the games was stolen off my bedroom dresser the week before. He was adopted very young and was in trouble for minor things constantly, the biggest of which I later learned was from starting fires. I probably lost a lot of what would other been long-lasting friendships due to being associated with him. We had fun. He was reckless and unabanded. Lots of fun. A total Yin-and -Yang when you got to know him better. He’s been married twice. I went to his mom’s funeral. He feigned sadness and put on quite the show for all the attendees that were completely igonorant. I was tempted to stand up and clap at the end of the eulogy, but I know that would have not been viewed warmly…and I felt bad for his dad anyway…and I bit for myself too…cause she was such a nice, but very weird, person. I’m glad I never got to know her better. She gave me the creeps, but it was nothing I could ever put a finger on. He ruined a part in time of my life emotionally, and that’s the clincher. The things I’ve written are totally minor I know. If only I could paint the overall, broad picture. That would take a book. The turning point came during a Thanksgiving break after high school when I found him ‘in bed’ with his also adopted brother. He wanted sex any way he could get it. Any such person doesn’t ‘make love’…they ‘do sex’. At first appearances, like while at the mall, we could walk the mall on Friday nights and have the girls google over us. He loved the attention, I was indifferent and only did it because what the heck, I was a teen. He’s moved several times and is now far away, but get concerned that when I do hear from him he talks about moving back. He’s probably not the brightest at socializing as others that have the mentality. Having experienced being with both individuals at separate times of my life…they shared many qualities..but were also quite different. From what I’ve experienced, a person can fall within the label regardless of intellect. That has nothing to do with it. And there seems to be levels within the ‘label’ that further delineates from serial killer to just plain pain in the ass. I wonder though, the same as what others have, would any future retalitory measures taken on my part perhaps lead them to taking a measure of revenge – not of physical nature, but of whatever they can scheme up to get a momentary rush. Therefore, even though tempted at times, I do not write them. I unfortunately ‘friended’ them in Facebook. But they are well far away from my location. Distance does make the heart grow fonder. Fonder of the notion that they are no where near me. I feel for the posts from any one who has posted about having a marriage, relationship, sibling, or child that falls within this category. Best thing to do is NOT communicate with them. And for those who have read and posted about “it” and described the uncaringness and other dribble you have…so what. I don’t care and you don’t care (if what you even say is true). If it is true that you are a sociopath, you don’t care what anyone says, so why post in the first place. It’s too bad all this information is available now on the internet. It’s just more fuel to feed the imaginations of those that fit the label….fuel for that, as well as was to hide more effectively what has become known publicly. On the otherhand, one can’t diss anyone for being like this. Everything is relative in the broad scheme of things. It’s not really a disorder, nor a brain dysfunction. It just is. The world in some ways has become a better place with this, and in many ways worse. I really don’t like describing or labelling ‘socio/psycho pathology’…because in doing so give it in and of itself credence. As far as the status quo goes though, and in review of the statistics, I’m sort of inclined to see it as merely a deviance from the morally and socially accepted norm…which in other ways means nothing. I’m “quite a piece of work’ myself of an entirely different nature. Quite aware of it. I’d like to be of psychopathic mind set sometimes…sort of like and overweight person would like to be anorexic. In both cases, the ‘means’ does not become and attractive ‘ ends’.

By: PotentlyAlive

PotentlyAlive — Thu, 07 Oct 2010 21:38:49 +0000

I wouldn’t say that just because the person has improper writing skills that they are not a sociopath/psychopath. My ex is definately one and his writing skills are terrible, although he thinks differently. My ex is a narcissist, a spoiled rotten brat and has the biggest case of entitlement I’ve ever heard of, so when it came to school he didn’t bother to pay attention in class and was never made to, hence the horrible letter writing which he thinks are legally intimidating to me.

BUT I would love some advice if anyone has any thoughts about what to do when you have an ex who is a sociopath and is being ‘protected’ by the local police department. He gets away with everything from having his ‘friends’ give me parking tickets to having my 16 year old daughter charged with assault after he attacks her and gives her a physical injury. He hasn’t done anything physical to me since I got out, 13 years ago, but it’s been constant warfare with him using the kids to torture me, he has no concern for the fact that he’s totally ruined their lives and futures in the process. Definate sociopath when his own childrens needs mean nothing to him, yet in the courtroom he plays it up that he’s a concerned parent and I almost vomit over the rediculous lies.
My question is this: when my youngest turns 18 and he no longer has her to use as a tool, (the courts insist on 50/50 placement, so she’s been his way to get into my home and my life) will he become desperate and escalate to more violent measures then he’s been keeping to. So far it’s been constant harrassment, threats and doing anything he can to extort money out of me through the courts and kids. He’s been satisfied with this because he feels he still has ‘control’ over me, when the youngest is 18 and I can put a complete stop to the phone calls etc, will this push him over the edge?