As for my opinion on the irresponsibility of the hospital: Keep, rear, and love both children, leave money out of the issue, find out who made the mistake and make sure that person never works in a hospital again.

Liz, you are correct as far as family being more then genetic code, but you must look at what makes a family, HONESTY. In this case the clinic screwed up, but in many other cases it is fact that the mother slept with 2 men to get this result, accidentally (not that the act was an accident but the result). Having a child that is not 100% yours is a complicated situation and its only fair to that child that its biological parents are in its life. They just reported a case of this here in Dallas where I live. Dont you think that child is going to have questions when it grows up? Of course. And dont you think that its only right it know the truth? Yes. And when you hold a genetic code that is different from the one that is raising you, you should have the right to know who that is, where it came from. Not live a questionable life of not knowing.

I am 31 years old and believe to be a heteropaternal superfecundation. I feel like I have been lied to and betrayed my whole life and dont not have one ounce of trust for my mother. My twin and I are nothing a like, looks or personality. Mom refuses to give us any info on who our dad is, however, my older sister was old enough to see what was going on before I was born. Whats this? OH mom was seeing 2 men and I look like one and my twin looks like the other. Mom wont admit anything about this but does acknowledge the two mens names. I’ve heard lie after lie and hold a large amount of resentment for my mother. I dont care if she was whoring around, I would like to know who my father is and where I come from. Growing up without a parent or any knowledge of that parent leaves a ton of blank spots and emptyness.
Due to financial reasons I have not done dna testing to see if we are half or full sisters, but want to so bad and when finances allow, I will have it done.

I hand it to the men out there who live an open minded life and raise these children that are not “genetically” theirs. I had a step dad too, he sexually molested me and mom called me a b*tch and a liar when I told her about it. Thats another subject though. PROPS to you good men out there being a great DADDY! I have a feeling that id I had a step dad that really took care of things instead of making the situation worse, I wouldnt be on this lifelong quest to find my real daddy.

Feel free to email me with questions, comments and advice haha.. brat1978@gmail.com

You know, I could understand being a little upset, but you all are acting like you own your wives and children. Shouldn’t you love your kids no matter what? Isn’t a family more then just genatic code?

I definately think there’s a lawsuit here, though. The results of this mix up could have been far more disasterous than two healthy, if multi-colored, baby boys.

However, whatever the outcome, if the father should choose to reject the “other” twin, he is a dickless ass. The child didn’t ask to be born, the mother wasn’t unfaithful, and to punish the innocent baby would be about as scummy as you can get.

They had no problem with two babies – their problem is that they wanted babies made up from the two of them, not the mother and some random stranger. If the parentage of the child was inconsequential to them, they would have saved a lot of money just by adopting. Another problem is that by having bodily fluids put into the mother from some other person they cannot be sure she and the child have not now contracted some serious disease.

Not settling for an unacceptable standard of medical care, which you are paying for out of your pocket, makes you a racist, prejudiced, selfish jerk?

The second child wasn’t what they were upset about. If you were a vegetarian and you found hamburger in your cheesecake because the chef didn’t bother cleaning off the fork he used, would you at the very least be asking the manager to take the cost of the dessert off your bill, if not the entire meal? And if there “possibly” could have been peanuts (which in this illustration you are deathly allergic to) included in the cheesecake as well?
After some reflection, I suppose you could make the claim that the hospital’s negligence prevented the correct sperm from fertilizing an egg that is known viable; that you contracted with the hospital to fertilize sperm A with eggs B, not sperm C, thus making the hospital in breach of contract (if not outright medical malpractice). However, I still fail to see the actual damage.

Be interesting to see how this played out in court. I bet a jury would award more damages than a judge, since the jury would play on the emotional aspect of it more.””

This was the best metaphor I think i’ve ever read.

While it is true the father had an interest in having his own genetic child, it seems unfair to him to assume he wouldn’t be mature enough to love both children equally. While it’s certainly a possibility that he would favor one, one shouldn’t assume how he would behave without having met him. Also don’t forget it is also possible that the mother would favor her husbands child.

In response to those who claim there is no damage I have some points to make. Most importantly if the genetic father of the child wanted to have frequent contact with his son, that adds another person into the couples (and the childrens) lives that was not initially intended/wanted. That can open up a whole host of complications to the families lives. I can’t see any reason that the agreement would not have been “We’ll pay you to impregnate my wife with our child.” The bottom line is the clinic was negligent and unsafe. Learning about the poor precedures used in the lab would make me feel scared and insecure.

For example (now I admit, I have little experience in legal matters, so I’m unsure as to whether this would be a proper case for a lawsuit or not. It seemed acceptable to me, and TV would lead us to believe that with a good enough lawyer…) you are driving your car and a malfunction in the vehicle caused it to go careening off the road, down a steep embankment, and come to a skidding halt at the bottom of a deep ditch. Both you and the car are unharmed, but I imagine you feel insecure with the car and the company at this point. Clearly this case differs in many fundamental ways, and it’s a given that the company would refund the money paid for the vehicle (or perhaps repair it). Could you also sue for the frightening experience you were put through?

Just some thoughts I had. :)